After a Fight: Reconnection Conversation Starters

What's something that made you smile today, even a little?

What's a song that usually makes you feel better?

What's something small I did recently that you appreciated?

What's a memory of us that makes you laugh?

What's a show or movie you'd want to watch together right now?

What's something you're looking forward to this week?

What's a comfort food you'd want right now if we ordered something?

What's a place we've been that felt peaceful?

What's something I do that you find endearing?

What's a hope you have for us this month?

What's something I said that landed differently than I meant it?

What's a feeling you were trying to express that got lost in the fight?

What's something you need from me right now that you haven't asked for?

What's a fear that came up for you during our argument?

What's something you wish I had done differently, without blaming?

What's something you're willing to take responsibility for?

What's a way we've handled conflict well in the past that we could try again?

What's a boundary you want us to set together going forward?

What's something you love about us that the fight made you forget for a minute?

What's a small gesture that would help you feel safe right now?

What's a wound this fight touched that goes deeper than this argument?

What's something you're afraid to say because you think it might start another fight?

What's a pattern in our relationship you want us to break together?

What's a forgiveness you're offering me right now, even if it's hard?

What's a forgiveness you need from me?

What's something you're committed to doing differently after this?

What's a hope you have for us that feels worth fighting for?

What's a moment in our relationship that reminded you why you're here?

What's something you want me to know about your heart that has nothing to do with the fight?

What's a promise you want to make to me right now?