This or That Conversation Starters

Coffee or tea?

Beach or mountains?

Early bird or night owl?

Cats or dogs?

Sweet or savory?

Book or movie?

City life or country life?

Summer or winter?

Shower in the morning or at night?

Phone call or text message?

Pen or pencil?

Window seat or aisle seat?

Mornings or late nights?

Fiction or nonfiction?

Dine in or takeout?

Plan everything or go with the flow?

Bath or shower?

Tattoos or no tattoos?

Public transit or driving yourself?

Staying in or going out?

New experiences or familiar favorites?

Sweet breakfast or savory breakfast?

Frozen yogurt or ice cream?

Pancakes or waffles?

Burger or pizza?

Sneakers or sandals?

Watch the movie first or read the book first?

Real Christmas tree or fake?

Houseplants or no houseplants?

News or sports?

Podcasts or music?

Physical book or e-reader?

Group trip or solo trip?

All-inclusive resort or backpacking adventure?

Fame or fortune?

Be known for being kind or being successful?

Live in a big house in the suburbs or a small apartment in the city?

Work to live or live to work?

Too hot or too cold?

Loud party or quiet dinner party?

Deep conversations or comfortable silence?

Always be 20 minutes early or consistently 5 minutes late?

A few very close friends or many casual friends?

Predictable but stable or exciting but chaotic?

Talk it out or sleep on it?

Apologize first or wait for the other person?

Tell the hard truth or a gentle lie?

Be overprepared or figure it out as you go?

Fully remote work or fully in-person?

Many hobbies you're okay at or one thing you're great at?

Laugh at yourself or be embarrassed easily?

Get closure from someone or walk away without explanation?

Be forgotten or be remembered for something you're ashamed of?

Live in the past, present, or future?

Die young and be legendary, or live a long quiet life?

Have all the answers or have all the questions?

Be loved but misunderstood, or understood but unloved?

Control your destiny or surrender to fate?

Never be wrong or never be uncertain?

Change the world or be content with your small corner of it?